Many people fear becoming old if it means being a “burden” to their family members, living in a nursing home, or forgetting who their children are. I believe that you can live old without aging, and one way to remain young as you age is through your sex life.
Recently on The Doctor’s Show, I helped a 47-year-old woman jump-start her sex life. Maryann’s hormone levels were very low, and her blood circulation in her pelvic region was diminished. Both of these factors lessened her ability to orgasm. However, none of this was her fault. Her brain was becoming chemically imbalanced, and her body was getting older than her actual age. How does this happen, and what can we do to stop it?
The four phases of sex can be directly correlated to the four primary brain chemicals:
· Desire and libido are created in the brain by dopamine. When you are low on dopamine, your energy for and interest in sex wanes, as well as your performance.
· Arousal is initiated by acetylcholine. When cognitive functioning and internal moisture go awry and your acetylcholine becomes depleted, you become unable to focus on sex, let alone maintain your attention and stimulation.
· GABA is your “get started” brain chemical. It controls your anxiety to prevent you from getting tense and not achieving an orgasm.
· Resolution is related to serotonin. If serotonin becomes depleted, your timing is off. You’re either coming to the party too early or too late.
The Fix: Oxytocin Supplements That Enhance Sexual Desire
The core elements of my approach include early and innovative diagnostics, so that you can determine if you are experiencing problems relating to sex before symptoms occur. Then, you can enhance your particular brain chemical deficiencies through exercise, choosing the right foods and nutrients (and avoiding the wrong ones, like coffee, soda, and salt), as well as taking medications to resolve specific issues. All of these suggestions are detailed in my book, YOUNGER YOU.
Yet even a balanced brain can still use a little help when it comes to sex. That’s why I recommend bioidentical hormones as part of my protocol. It’s simply a fact that as we age, our hormonal output diminishes. Decreases in these hormones affect all of the systems in the body and the brain, but none are more noticeable than the ones related to sex. Menopause, and its male counterpart, andropause, occur as the hormones estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone decline. The good news is that these decreases are completely reversible. If you can boost these same hormones in their most natural forms, along with other important ones early enough, the symptoms and conditions related to their decline will disappear, creating a younger you full of vigorous health.
The latest research also shows that both men and women can supplement the hormone oxytocin for enhancing sexual function and desire. Often referred to as “the happy hormone,” oxytocin is released during birthing and breastfeeding. It is also released when we are hugging, touching, and during orgasm. In the brain, oxytocin plays an integral role in bonding, and may be involved in the formation of loving relationships. In the body, it causes contractions in the uterus, and the penis. Women who are deficient in oxytocin may have difficulty with sexual arousal and will not be able to achieve multiple orgasms. Men who are deficient will lack the desire to be touched, as well as the ability to orgasm.
Oxytocin supplementation has been common practice in hospital settings for dozens of years. Pitocin, the drug given to birthing mothers to increase contractions, is a synthetic form of oxytocin. However, prescribing a naturally compounded version that is more similar to the hormone we produce in the body for the purpose of increased sexual enjoyment is relatively new.
Oxytocin is one of the most potent stimulators for both men and women. It will increase sexual arousal, increase penile erection, and increase frequency of orgasm. The results I have seen in my office are astounding. Another woman told me that within a few days of treatment “sex felt the way it used to.”
Just as Maryann is having the best sex of her life as she gets older, so can you. Discuss this option with your doctor to see if it is right for you and your current state of health. Sometimes these conversations can be uncomfortable, but rest assured, your doctor should be willing to talk to you about your sex life in the most professional terms. If not, it might be time to find a doctor who cares about treating all of your needs.
Eric R. Braverman, M.D.
Dr. Braverman is a Summa Cum Laude and Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Brandeis University and NYU Medical School, did brain research at Harvard Medical School, and trained at an affiliate of Yale Medical School. He is acknowledged worldwide as an expert in brain-based diagnosis and treatment, and he lectures to and trains doctors in anti-aging medicine.